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Emotional avoidance, energy constriction and flinching.

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Emotional avoidance, energy constriction and flinching.

We hold in our suffering with emotional avoidance, energy constriction and flinching. This is because we have been trained to avoid emotion that is unpleasant. Unfortunately, this habit makes personal transformation almost impossible on the emotional level.

How many times a day does this happen? Something someone does or says triggers an emotion within you. You tense a part of your body as you resist feeling that emotion. It would be possible to just deeply experience the emotion you are having. You don’t relax, you tense up. You choose flinching over feeling. Emotional avoidance has been installed. Emotional avoidance energy constriction and flinching go hand in hand and they both create patterns that interfere with authentic self expression.

Now you have imprinted the emotion in your body and the next time it comes around you flinch in about the same way you did the first time. Every time that emotion is felt, a part of you constricts. Emotional avoidance and flinching go hand in hand. The flinching is the built in mechanism for avoiding the flow of emotion.

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Emotional Avoidance Protects Nothing

You think you are protecting yourself from the emotion by constricting and flinching. You are not. Almost everyone has tension in the neck and shoulders. This is because of thousands of times the person has constricted around feeling judged or rejected.

But here’s the question: Have your tight shoulders every prevented you from being or feeling rejected? Of course not. Those tight shoulders never protected you from the feeling. They actually trapped that feeling withing you. That’s why some people will have intense emotional reactions during a massage. The feeling is being released and experienced simultaneously.

Emotional Avoidance is Cumulative

Look at people as they age and you will see the result of thousands of constrictions layered on each other, expressed in their body language. You will see, on a very physical level, the results of emotional avoidance. Emotional avoidance, energy constriction and flinching are all part of a process. As soon as you avoid emotions you constrict energy. And the flinch is the built in mechanism that keeps it going. Over time the flinch gets locked in physically.

The solution? Emotional healing. Feel, relax and be gentle with yourself. Experience your  emotions as physical sensations like tension. All of this tension wants to unwind. When an emotion comes up, say “Yes!”. Let it move through you. Allow it to s

weep up those layers of self denial in one big emotionally cathartic release.

You’ll love yourself for it.

Andy Sway has a very unique approach to healing. He is able to address very esoteric concerns with those of the very pragmatic. By totally grounding what is termed spirituality, he is unique in his ability to work on multiple levels in a very deep and personalized way. Melding the arcane with real life practical wisdom, he gives invaluable tools towards reaching one’s potential.
Sabisha Friedberg
Sabisha FriedbergArtist and Musician, Paris, France
“I have worked with Andy for almost two decades. I don’t know how he does it but I am a very practical person and I can only say that IT WORKS.”
Patti Wilson
Patti WilsonFashion Editor, NYC
When the word “chakra” first became part of my lexicon, I was recommended to Andy Sway. Divine timing indeed. Although I had a library of self-help books, I was struggling to get over some painful hurdles from my past that left me with low-self esteem and a frustrating history of bad romances. During my first session with Andy, I literally felt the weight of that energy leave my body. It was an unbelievable shift that I never thought would be possible. We worked together on a regular basis for a few months, and I have continued to go for “tune up” on-and-off through the years. Since the first session, I’ve emerged a lighter, more radiant person who is capable of being happy, manifesting great relationships, and owning my power and ability to make a difference for other people. I wouldn’t be who I am without Andy’s incredible healing work. He helped me drop the energetic baggage and clear my field. Yeah, I know it sounds “woo woo,” but there’s no other way to describe it. Andy sees the blocks that the eye doesn’t reveal. He also knows how to blast right through them, drilling through suffering to bring about bliss.
Tali Edut
Tali EdutAuthor and Astrologer, Seattle WA
Andy knows how to access a situation and address it energetically in order to remove that which blocks you from your goals.
Steven Klein
Steven KleinPhotographer and Filmmaker-NYC
“Andy Sway is a master at locating energetic blocks in one’s life and assisting in unlocking their effect. When one works with him especially on a particular subject, one is able in time to see positive changes in one’s experience of life. When I met Andy I was depressed and a couch potato unable to make a decision and follow through. Now I am relentless in my pursuit of my true desires.”
Joe Lally
Joe LallyFilmmaker, NYC
Andy Sway has the unique ability to see exactly what is needed in the present time for the client’s growth. His no nonsense, direct and straight to the point approach is complemented by compassion, humor and respect for where the individual is in his or her process. Andy’s work has been a tremendous ally in my life. I recommend Andy to all people seeking to live as who they truly are.
Marc Gian
Mark Gian, L.AC, LMTAccupuncturist-Teacher, NYC
“Through Andy’s work, I have gained incredible perspective on my life. I feel grounded as I navigate the world, able to embrace my experience and operate with an intense clarity I never had from years of therapy. Andy’s work has helped center me in ways I never thought possible. I’ve gained an inner calmness and with every session, know that I am solidly on the path to Higher Truth. ”
Dara Colwell
Dara ColwellWriter, Amsterdam, Netherlands
“Andy gave me an ability to see alternative ways of being in difficult emotional situations. After a single session, I could see how the life can be FELT from a different point of view. He is a tremendously inspiring healer who offers wisdom money can’t buy.”
Darya Zhuk
Darya ZhukFilmmaker, NYC
Right from the start with Andy, I felt a sense of camaraderie, warmth and understanding that immediately put me at ease. Andy’s compassionate and non-judgmental approach creates a safe space where I feel comfortable discussing even the most difficult topics. His expertise and insight are evident in every session, he has a remarkable ability to listen deeply and understand the underlying issues that I sometimes struggle to articulate. His guidance has been invaluable in helping me navigate through various personal challenges and gain a deeper understanding of myself. Andy’s techniques are diverse and tailored to my specific needs. Whether it’s hypnosis, cognitive-behavioral strategies, mindfulness exercises, or simply providing a different perspective, he always knows the right approach to take. His professionalism is matched by his genuine care and commitment to my well-being. What sets Andy Sway apart is his dedication to my growth. He continually encourages me to explore new ways of thinking and to challenge myself, all while being incredibly empathetic and supportive. A true gem!
Marco Franzoni
Marco FranzoniCinematographer- Boston, MA
The day I met Andy was one of most important days if my life. Yes, Andy is a real life wizard. Fun, wise, smart, cool and kind, and a great friend. With Andy buckle up for the jump into a totally new dimension, one of synchronicities and wonders, where you start to see everything in a true light.
Everita Upeniece
Everita UpenieceArt Director/Designer Riga, Latvia